A week ago I was coming out of prayer when I received a text from a friend about rejection. My answer flowed with the inspiration of the Holy Spirit and for the next few days more and more kept pouring out as I recorded what the Sprit was saying to me concerning the spirit of rejection. Before we jump into the workings of this spirit, let us first establish a biblical foundation about the spirit realm. I am not going to delve into demonology. Many people may not be familiar with this topic or may be hearing about this for the first time so I want to keep this part very simple. As a launching pad, let us look at Ephesians 6:12
“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the worldly forces of this darkness, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.” This is as deep as we are going. Just enough to expose this network of darkness operating.
Out of this network, we are going to expose a more common spirit that wreaks havoc on so many today and that is the spirit of rejection.
What is rejection? It is the intentional or perceived pushing away of someone or something.
How can this spirit gain access?
-Ambivalence or complete rejection of a child in utero by mother.
-Open doors generationally. A parent(s) carrying the rejection wound projecting it onto the child causing the same wound.
-Actual or perceived events of rejection by others.
Roots and Agreements
At some point access must meet your agreement. Let me explain. A few months ago, the Lord gave me two dreams over the course of two days opening this up to me. The first dream I was carried away by a big, man stronger then me (strongman). He sat in a chair and guarded the room I was in. I felt trapped. I looked around and saw others being held against their will and it hit me. The only way out was to fight so I grabbed a weapon and pointed it at the strongman to destroy him. The next dream the following day happened while I was praying.
I was communing with the Lord and I was in such a peaceful state that I drifted fast into seeing what looked to be the bible opened. I saw large, bold, italic letters that said stronghold and immediately I was awakened and stirred.
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Spirit of Rejection
Let us go deeper. A situation occurs, real or perceived, something you do or say is rejected by someone else. You now feel pained inside over it and you do nothing with it. You don’t process it before the Lord, you don’t find scripture to trade that lie for a truth, you don’t pray to forgive and bless the offender, so this event tied with strong emotion becomes fixed in your mind. Now time goes on and another situation like the first occurs, you again take no biblical steps to resolve it and the incident connects with the first and reinforces the belief you are being rejected. Over time this builds and builds until it becomes a house of lies in your mind, a stronghold. A house that provides covering for the strongman, that spirit to come and make the lie fester. Stay with me. Don’t get weirded out. I am not implying if you feel rejected you are demon possessed.
Strongholds & Strongman
What I am trying to show is your mind is like a fortress. If one part breaks down and becomes weak, the enemy can come and try and hit you on your weak side. Think of it that way. Now when this lie takes firm root in the mind, it causes the person to seek validation from others but it never is enough. It never soothes the rejected feeling deep within so bitterness begins to take root. The word says in Hebrews 12:15 that a root of bitterness defiles many. The person will then find themselves ruining relationships often rejecting others before they can be rejected and speaking against others defiling many. Do you see the collateral damage that takes place when Yeshua/Jesus is not the strongman?
The Lord kept impressing on me to study Saul and David’s life as a parallel. As I began to study the book of 1 Samuel, Saul is described as a mighty man of power, someone who not only was taller then all others but also the most handsome. It would appear that Saul probably did not receive too much external rejection yet he still had insecurity. When Samuel went to anoint Saul as king, Saul was hiding! The word goes on to tell us the Spirit of the Lord came upon Saul and his heart was changed. Early on, anyone who despised him as King, Saul did not lose his peace over. In time, we see he stops listening to the Holy Spirit and the Prophet Samuel’s counsel.
He begins growing in disobedience causing the Holy Spirit to depart and a distressing spirit to come to torment his mind. Samuel is now sent to tell King Saul that Yahweh has rejected him as king. David now enters King Saul’s life. At first Saul pulls David close until he sees the favor of both God and men that once rested on him is now on David. Remember the people saying Saul killed his thousands and David his tens of thousands? Saul was now feeling rejected by the people and he grew jealous of David until the torment drove him to make multiple attempts on David’s life for approximately 15 years.
Now what about David? The first thing we hear of David is he is a man after God’s own heart. What we first see is some forms of external rejection by his family. When the Prophet Samuel came to meet with David’s Father Jesse and to look at each of his sons to determine who the next king would be, the Lord told him not to look at outward appearance. God was looking at the heart. David was different then his brothers. They were warriors in King Saul’s army. David was a shepherd boy.
No one called him to meet with Samuel until Samuel asked if there where any more sons, then David was sent for. Another example found in 1 Samuel, Jesse tells David to take food to the commanding officers at the battlefield and bring back word to him about how his brothers were doing. This was the battle with the Philistines where we hear about Goliath. When David inquires about what is happening with Goliath, his brothers accuse him of being conceited and wicked, just wanting to watch the battle. None of this moved David.
The difference between Saul and David was David’s confidence, identity and authority was in Yahweh. This is evidenced not only in what he says on the battlefield to Goliath, but what is also recorded at the Psalms. David processed everything with the Lord and did not come into agreement with the actions and accusations of others against him being his truth unless he knew it came from the Lord himself. Saul turned from the Lord, David turned to the Lord.
Freedom in Christ
So what do we do if you realize a rejection is already operating in your life?
-Find out if it is generational. Is there a pattern in your family? Are the behaviors of a rejected person what you witnessed in your home? If so repent, denounce and break any agreements with the spirit of rejection through others or even yourself. Forgive and release anyone who has caused you to feel wounded because they themselves were operating out of this wound. Pray and repent for others in your family if they are not Christians or will not repent themselves. Stand in the gap for your family.
Sword of the Spirit
-Meditate on and declare scripture truth to combat lies. This is your sword of the spirit. 2 Corinthians 10:4-6 says For our weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds, casting down arguments and every high things that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.
Cleansing & Renewing
-Are you bitter? Are you carrying judgements and unforgiveness? If so repent, forgive and reconcile. Remember if you don’t forgive you can not receive forgiveness from the Father. Matthew 6:14-15
-Prayer and Fasting. Never underestimate the power of prayer and fasting. This is a lifestyle modeled by both Jesus and the disciples. Some go out by this way.
Power of Agreement
-Lastly. If you are still struggling, go to your leadership. Go to your trusted covering and seek out sound inner healing and deliverance counsel. There are some that flow in the gift of discerning of spirits. This can be invaluable when you find yourself not getting free. Sometimes we can break agreements and use scripture and be blinded to the fact we are still carrying unforgiveness.
Now you are free, how do you stay free?
-Yeshua/Jesus has to remain the strongman of your mind at all times. Review 2 Corinthians 10:4-6
Guard your heart and mind. Proverbs 4:23 says to guard your heart and mind with all diligence for out of it flow the issues of life. Things enter our mind and are solidified in our heart. Guard these areas as well as every gate. Your eyes, ears, mouth, give no member off your body over. Guard them.
-Daily put on the armor of God as listed in Ephesians 6:10-18. This is such a familiar verse that many don’t take heed and actually do it.
-Be found on offence not defense trying to catch up. 1 Peter 5:8 says be sober and alert! Why? Satan is on the prowl looking for someone to devour. Shut him down. Stay Spirit led. Pray in the Spirit.
Know your enemy
The word tells us the enemy is crafty. He would love nothing more then to regain access or get you to believe you aren’t free when you really are so be prepared that he will use others to cause offense and make you feel rejected. Your body will respond and feel that initial hurt but this time you are ready. You take it immediately to the Father to process. You get a scripture and declare the truth breaking the lie that has come and you forgive, release and bless the person quickly.
Lastly, at the beginning I shared how the Lord began to open this up to me. Right now I want to give you what first poured out to me. Rejection in this life will either refine you or wound you as we see mirrored in the life of David and Saul.
There is a rejection from man that comes as a mark of who you are in Christ. It is one that under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, is used to refine you, to make you free of people pleasing and praise of man. It causes you to learn to chase Yahweh’s opinions, not mans. There is another rejection, that without the Holy Spirit, corrupts the mind and lens of the person and causes them to come under the bondage of people pleasing and praise of man. One is a gift, the other a torment.
Father, I lift up every single person who reads what you have given me to share. I pray the eyes of their understanding be opened. That they would have ears to hear and eyes to see truth. That they would hunger for your word and allow your truth to become their truth. May they put on you armor daily and be wise against the wiles of the enemy. I pray for every captive to be set free the blood of your precious Lamb Jesus and the sword of the Spirit. Heal the minds Lord and break the yokes of bondages as your people seek you in repentance releasing offenses and unforgiveness to you. Uproot all that defiles and lead to the paths of righteousness. I pray each one will seek to have the mind of Christ. We thank you Father for your love and care over each one and I pray deep within their truth becomes that they are accepted into the beloved.
In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen
Blessings and love to all,
Catrina Lee Volz
Further scriptures to study
Matthew 8:31, 12:29, 12:45
Mark 1:21-27, 3:27
1 Corinthians 10:20-21
1 Timothy 4:12
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